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Why We Can\’t Do Wellness Alone
We often think of health as an individual pursuit—your diet, your exercise, your habits. But research tells a different story: social connection is one of the most powerful predictors of health and longevity we have.
People with strong social ties have:
- Lower rates of depression and anxiety
- Better immune function
- Reduced risk of heart disease
- Lower levels of inflammation
- Longer lifespans
Conversely, loneliness and social isolation carry health risks comparable to smoking 15 cigarettes a day.
Building a wellness support system isn\’t optional—it\’s essential.
What a Wellness Support System Looks Like
A robust support system includes different people who serve different needs:
Emotional Support
People who listen, empathize, and validate your feelings. They\’re there when you need to process difficult experiences.
Practical Support
People who help with tangible needs—a ride to an appointment, help with childcare, meals during difficult times.
Informational Support
People who share knowledge, advice, and resources—maybe a friend who\’s navigated a similar health issue.
Accountability
People who help you stick to your goals—workout buddies, meal prep partners, or friends who check in on your progress.
Companionship
People you simply enjoy being with—friends who make life more fun and less isolated.
Assessing Your Current Support
Take inventory:
- Who can you call at 2 AM in a crisis?
- Who celebrates your wins genuinely?
- Who do you trust with vulnerable feelings?
- Who helps you stay accountable to your goals?
- Who can help with practical needs?
- When did you last feel truly connected?
If some of these answers are harder to find, that\’s okay—it\’s information about where to focus.
Building and Strengthening Connections
1. Invest in Existing Relationships
Don\’t overlook the relationships you already have:
- Reach out regularly (a text, a call, a coffee date)
- Be genuinely curious about others\’ lives
- Show up for important moments
- Deepen conversations beyond surface level
- Express appreciation and gratitude
2. Find Your People
Seek out communities aligned with your interests and values:
- Fitness communities: Walking groups, yoga classes, running clubs
- Learning groups: Book clubs, classes, workshops
- Service organizations: Volunteering connects you with like-minded people
- Faith communities: If spirituality is important to you
- Online communities: Can supplement (not replace) in-person connection
- Support groups: For specific health concerns or life circumstances
3. Be the Support You Seek
Connection is reciprocal. To build support:
- Offer help before being asked
- Check in on others regularly
- Listen without judgment
- Celebrate others\’ successes
- Be reliable and consistent
4. Professional Support
Some support should come from professionals:
- Healthcare providers: Your medical team
- Mental health professionals: Therapists, counselors
- Health coaches: For accountability and guidance
- Support groups: Facilitated groups for specific concerns
Navigating Challenges
When Relationships Are Draining
Not all relationships support your wellness. Some may actually undermine it. Consider:
- Setting boundaries with draining people
- Limiting time with those who don\’t support your goals
- Having honest conversations about what you need
- Distancing from toxic relationships
When Connection Feels Hard
Building relationships as an adult is genuinely challenging:
- It takes time—don\’t give up after one awkward attempt
- Quality matters more than quantity
- Vulnerability builds connection (share authentically)
- Small, consistent interactions build relationships
- It\’s okay to feel awkward—keep showing up
When You\’re an Introvert
Being introverted doesn\’t mean you don\’t need connection:
- Focus on one-on-one or small group interactions
- Choose activities that don\’t require constant socializing
- Honor your need for alone time while still prioritizing connection
- Deep relationships with a few people can be plenty
Technology and Connection
Technology can support or hinder connection:
Helpful uses:
- Maintaining long-distance relationships
- Scheduling and coordinating meetups
- Finding communities and events
- Quick check-ins between in-person visits
Unhelpful uses:
- Replacing in-person interaction
- Passive scrolling instead of active connection
- Comparison that leaves you feeling worse
Building Your Wellness Team
Consider who supports different areas of your health:
- Physical health: Doctor, dentist, workout buddy, physical therapist
- Mental health: Therapist, trusted friends, support group
- Nutrition: Dietitian, meal prep buddy, family members
- Life challenges: Coach, mentor, wise friends
- Fun and joy: Friends who help you play and celebrate
Connection Is a Health Behavior
We put effort into diet, exercise, and sleep. Social connection deserves the same intentionality.
Schedule social time like you would a workout. Prioritize it even when you\’re busy. Recognize that time with loved ones isn\’t a luxury—it\’s a health necessity.
Start Today
- Reach out to one person you haven\’t connected with recently
- Identify one community you might explore
- Schedule a coffee or walk date this week
- Consider where your support system might have gaps
- Express gratitude to someone who supports you
You are not meant to do life alone. Building a wellness support system takes time and intention, but it\’s one of the most important investments you can make in your health and happiness.
Who\’s part of your wellness support system? How might you strengthen those connections? Share your thoughts in the comments!